I've recently noticed that there
are measurements by which many judge a female
within "BDSM," a line where her servility stops
being seen as the noble practices of a good
servant, and instead becomes the weak actions of
the "doormat." I've watched many a discussion
unfold where one humbled girl will voice a truly
subservient opinion, only to be reprimanded by her
sisters for being weak, devoid of personality, and
passionless.
Having apparently
crossed this line myself and been labeled a
doormat, I feel compelled to understand why I'm
being labeled at all. It seems a bit ironic to me
that among the very first of those to cry doormat
are females who proudly embrace and bear titles
such as bitch, slut, and slave. If we look at the
definition of these words, how can one justify
wearing them with less humility than wearing the
title of doormat? How are they less demeaning? The
simple and real truth is, they are not.
When speaking of
the servility Humbled Females idealizes, females
who serve are branded as property, and are all
equal in their inferiority and capacity for use.
Yet we still have the line being drawn—sometimes
even in our own community—to distinguish a
difference between the self-assured, independent
"submissive" and her powerless and needful
counterpart. What is it that gives this one
self-styled class of females the right to sneer
and frown upon another while thinking so highly of
themselves? I feel the answer to that has to do
with females losing touch with humility and their
proper place.
In an effort to
legitimize and normalize "BDSM" in mainstream
culture, we see many terms take on more meaning
than their actual definitions would suggest. For
instance, in spite of its intent to debase and
objectify, the word slave is not heard as a simple
statement of status, but instead a title of
distinction. The imagery of a temple priestess
making sacrifices on an altar comes to mind,
instead of that of a chamber maid on her hands and
knees scrubbing the floor. While this evolution of
terms and imagery is in some ways helpful to those
involved in "BDSM" as far as acceptance and
protection in the "real world" goes, it is also
failing to properly educate the new and
impressionable on the true nature of dominance and
submission and the Natural Order. It seems as
though a "flexitarian" mindset is being applied to
"BDSM," allowing practitioners to incorporate
other views, such as feminism, into D/s to form a
socially acceptable hybrid lifestyle. Thus the
line is drawn; those who do not fit the accepted
description are placed on the other side, and we
start to hear negative labels such as "doormat"
being used.
While I am sure
that there are those who find mainstream "BDSM" to
be an accurate description of their lives, there
are a few of us for whom the literal meanings of
the words Master and slave are taken seriously,
and service as a female is a reality. I believe it
is this very thing which garners us so much
negativity. Most people are simply not ready for
things to be that real. I accept, as
other selfless servants do, that I am weak, and
that I am worthless without the guidance of my
Master. I am wholly devoted to him; my desire is
trained on his and I am a tool for his use,
whether it is as a priestess in his temple or a
chamber maid scrubbing his floors. I am who he
says I am and am improved by his correction. I
will not be accused of being a doormat; instead I
will embrace the title willingly, for a doormat is
a useful object. I consider it a compliment to be
likened to an object which so adequately serves
its purpose, and I choose to align myself with
whatever title places me beneath the foot of my
Master, for that is where I belong.
